What is the strongest sense of all?

School had taught me there are five senses. Eyes, ears, nose, mouth and skin.

There is also one more sense called sixth sense. Well, there were number of rhymes and lessons on how the five senses work. I taught my son the same rhymes ..we see with our eyes, we smell with our nose etc. And in school, he learnt the similar way like me about all the details of our senses "detailly" as per his age. Well, the question comes here, when I know about my human body so much, why did I stumble when I was asked a question in my school by my teacher, though I knew the answer? Why did I fear for a brave answer when the bullies bullied me in school? In fact, even today, why do I hesitate to open my mouth when there is something wrong going on in our house. Or rather why do I don't easily appreciate anyone when there is a good work going on. All my senses are working  but what is stopping me?  And yes, we all know now, the sixth sense, our mind is the master for all this. Why was I not taught in my school about this sense, how to take care of the mind? Why am I not teaching my kid now how to take care of his mind? 

In fact, let me explain with an example. 

In school, we used to have class leaders, nowadays called mentors. So, the leader is supposed to take care of the class in the absence of mam. Our class leader had a friend who is very naughty. Though our class leader was a good, disciplined, hard working and sincere student, his friend was naughty and had the habit of copying in exam, taking slips to the exam room. Though our leader didn't like this habit of his friend, he was stopping himself to tell mam about his friend. His friend slowly became the cause for many other kids' ill doings. The leader knew his friend was doing wrong, he had the ability to stop his friend's ill doings by whatever means. But, the leader feels, he couldn't take the failure of his dear friend, he couldn't complain or take action. He feels he cannot enjoy this achievement because his friend will be punished. Hence, this style of copying continued, and there were some more students who learnt from him and some bright and active students who got affected because of these set of students' ill doings.  Could you recollect any story from your childhood anything similar happening in your sports or cultural activities. Because someone is captains friend or cousin or sister, ill doings of that batch continue and flourish. 

Why not, even today, in my office, I see the same happening with educated adults. My colleague feels so bad for his friend for his malpractices. But, he feels, "come what may, I cannot let my friend go down. I cannot take the achievement of showcasing him and  causing harm to him." 

I think we experience the same within family. We don't want our little sister or brother to be exposed to their wrong doings in front of parents and hence we protect them. It is good if it is done out of innocence of younger ones but when we grow, if younger one is not ready to take responsibility and elders support them throughout for years, does that not reflect on the family around them? It is just like, we always act as good cop to our children because, we don't want their feelings to be hurt, we cant see them cry, we are so attached to them that we forget what is actually good for them. Like giving ice cream to the kid even he has fever because he is crying for it and we cant see them cry. We ignore the fact that the kid will have to suffer for more days if we get attached to his desire now. 

Every time and any where, good becomes the cause for the evil to flourish. Emotional attachment by The Good makes The Bad flourish. What is actually playing major role here. Any of our seen senses or unseen sense, mind? 

Definitely.

Our situation, when we feel our dear ones (but ill-desired ones) failure, would be like Arjuna's situation in the Kurukshetra war. When Arjuna visualizes his victory over his 100 brothers (dear ones but ill-desired ones) and he feels he cannot enjoy such achievement.

Chapter 2, shloka 8,9 - 

न हि प्रपश्यामि ममापनुद्या
द्यच्छोकमुच्छोषणमिन्द्रियाणाम्।
अवाप्य भूमावसपत्नमृद्धम्
राज्यं सुराणामपि चाधिपत्यम्।।2.8।।

Meaning, 

"I can find no means to drive away my grief which is drying up my senses. I will not be able to do it, even if I win a prosperous, unrivalled kingdom on earth, like the demi-gods on heaven."

Sanjaya said," Having thus spoken, (Gudakesa) Arjuna, who mastered the ignorance told (Hrishikesa) Krishna, the master of all senses, ("Na Yotsya, Govinda")"Govinda, I shall not fight" and fell (thushneem) silent."

While  Bhagavad Gita clearly quotes, Arjuna's emotional intelligence is affecting his ability to work. He wants to refrain from his work. 

How natural it is for Arjuna also to allow the evil to flourish and sacrifice the war. He is a great archer and a multi-talented person and also learnt the secret of controlling the mind and concentrating, to master all arts. But still, his attached mind plays a troll on him. 

What does he or we have to do in such situations? When we know our dear ones are doing wrong and we get carried away by their doings? Though we have a controlled mind, what should we do with our attached mind? Lets find out if the answer is hidden within us?